Quote: It was only when he pulled away his affection/love and even the negative fighting ( in other words, all emotion) that I woke up.
This is just what seems to have happened in my case with my LDH. He was just annoyed when I would get upset about the lack of sex , but when I actually started to feel and act emotionally distant or simply differentiated then he was the one who became upset. The sad thing is (I'm sure this is what you realize also) that it's not that I'm faking the emotional distance in order to get the response I want from him. Even though we've been having great, frequent sex lately, part of me is still "detached". I guess I'm just going to have to see a great deal of consistency and enthusiasm from him before I can totally recommit myself to him emotionally because I'm still quite hurt and wary whenever I think about the past. Do you sense this from your H?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
