I'm glad you started this thread and I apologize for promulgating the "HD is good, LD is bad" stereotype.
Your success is an inspiration to me, and I'm sure for others, too. I'm now confused by the part of your story that first seemed obvious, however. Isn't your success due to your "eyes being opened" to the need for you (LDW) to alter your behavior to meet your HDH's sexual makeup?
A LDW coming to here would be hard-pressed to believe you're truly LD, IMO. That opinion is based on the marathon LM that you've embarked on to love your H and save your M. From your posts, it doesn't seem that you've done so begrudgingly, but in making the decision to ML enthusiastically to your H, you've rekindled your desire for him in many ways.
I admire your willingness to change. You found the ingredient that many never find or are too proud to act on, if they find it. If you hadn't been willing to change first, you might not have saved your M.
But, as an admitted LDW, let me ask you a question. Would you see the same results in your M now if, instead of you going from LD to HD, your H had decided to go LD? Wasn't that your situation when you were facing D?
If that's true, then why wouldn't it take the same "revelation" that you got for any other LDW to resolve her M difficulties with a HDH? And wouldn't the same apply for a LDH with a HDW?
I think I'm speaking for all the HDs here when I say that "your revelation" is the ONE thing that we hope for most with our S.
Mike BTW - whenever MM says "moron", she's referring to me...she just adds "oxy" on the front to make me wonder what she's insulting me about (I can't find "oxy" in the dictionary )
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