MOjo, My H and I are separated. One of his reasons is not enuff Ml. When he was gone for a 1.5 months, I tried to come on to him. He turned me down. He said, that I was only doind it to get him to come back home, I am a phony, I don't want him, blah,blah,blah... Then about 2 wks later he asked me to do a sriptease for him.(something he wanted me 2 do b4 but I wouldn't)I did it and he loved it. After that we began doing the things I would never do. I dressed up in maid uniform, cheerleader, blindfolds....It got to the point where he would just call me and say, Can you do something nice and different for me? I did this for about 2.5 months. I then began to feel like he was cake eating so I stopped. I think he has OW, atleast EA but it didn't stop him from wanting those things from me. I wanted and still want him home. I believe that he has always wanted to feel more love from me, be accepted as a man,feel attractive and he wants it from me.
I think he is terrified to come home because the attention will stop. My question to you is in your opinion since you are HD, should I have stopped ML or not?
The thing is not until he left did I start to read about R's and exactly what sex meant to a man and how it makes him feel. I always just thought it was an act to fulfill his selfish needs. Boy was I wrong!
I feel bad for what I didn't give him but I am very happy that it caused me to research the issue. I also had self esteem issues and that is why I didn't want to dance for him and all the other stuff but he doesn't want to hear that.He wants to know why did it take me to leave to get you to give me this?
Ok fst forward: For about 3mos we Ml. No holds barred. I got frustrated 6wks ago because he wants sex but not ready to come home so I said No more Ml. I felt like a doormat. Was this a mistake? Should I start to Ml again since this was an issue. How do I help him understand that I really didn't any better. I enjoy sex more now than ever and so does he. I think one of the things that held me back was a fear intimacy.
