Integrity and the mating ritual

[MJontheMend]

But it became increasingly clear that he was withholding sex because it gave him leverage of some sort. Grrrrrr.

Sometimes I think that just knowing your spouse is LD enough that they can choose to want or not want to have sex at any given time is enough to throw a marriage out of balance. It's like that episode of Seinfeld where George complains that he has "no hand" in his current relationship. The fact that the LD spouse can turn the sex supply off any time they choose gives them a great deal of control over a HD spouse. This is true even if they generally choose to keep the supply turned on because they know it "lubricates" the relationship.

My H called last night and informed me that he will probably be gone another 2 weeks! He has little choice about this because he is in the training phase of a new job for which travel is a requirement. I'm mature enough to deal with lack of sex due to unavoidable physical separation, but something about this is bugging me. We've been having great phone conversations so I think I know what's going on in my H's head. He doesn't like being away from me and the kids for so long because he misses us emotionally. He understands that I am going to be unhappy to go that long without sex and he is quite concerned that our relationship might be jeopardized. BUT...I don't get any vibe off him that he is at all concerned about going without sex for three weeks for his own sake