I think it makes sense to share with your H, that when he does not ML to you, you feel less connected, less like his mate. Love languages differ, this is yours. It matters.
It's still his choice, and that ups the ante. (its one thing for him to not do so when he is unaware of the resulting emotions, feelings on your part-- it's a whole nother thing if he still doesn't do it after he knows)
It sounds to me, as if this is strong/impactful enough for you, that you should tell him clearly. You'd have to be prepared to accept or act on his behavior....
My own M was similar in this way. Sex wasn't the only thing, I also liked cuddles, backrubs-- I've often been compared to a greedy lap pet. But lack of sex was a show stopper for me. When he slipped up, and actually ML, it was always great. But it became increasingly clear that he was withholding sex because it gave him leverage of some sort. Grrrrrr. If I'd been Schnarched, I might have handled it even more strongly-- but I doubt the outcome would have been any different.
I'll be smarter next time.... it's nice to know that men are attracted to me, know I'm quite F-able. I won't ever get tied into a LD man again.
Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time, and annoys the pig.
