Quote: I found that if I don't ask directly if ex-roommate called, and instead say, "You seem tense, is something wrong?" that lets him know I am ready to listen if he wants to talk, without being intrusive. More often than not, he will eventually let me know what's on his mind.
this sounds perfect, that's exactly what I'll do....
there is so much new stuff to process now it seems like, and I feel so much more conficent when H is around.
H sent me an email at nine this AM, I replied to that and sent him another one and havent heard back, so maybe he's pulling back again already.
I am really having trouble with detachment....I am so afraid she will be able to "guilt" him into going back... Except he said he told her he would want to be "at home" if he was with her....and he's told me he couldnt live with her constant anger and animosity towards males for the rest of his life, and that he could never leave...I guess I need to try to build some faith and trust...
