Hey hon...my H did the same thing... Before, I was "suffocating" him. Now, he keeps asking me for more and more attention. I think there's a fine line between being affectionate, and hanging on everything my H does. Which may be more in my mental state than what I do. I'm just trying to help him in anyway I can--by just adjusting day to day. Your H may still try to pull back at times, so don't be too surprised.
Quote: should I do anything? should I ask H if she's calling, if he wants me to put a stop to it? I could block her cell # or we could get an unlisted #)....or should I just let it go?
Let your H handle it. I have a hard time with this, too. But it's his to deal with. I found that if I don't ask directly if ex-roommate called, and instead say, "You seem tense, is something wrong?" that lets him know I am ready to listen if he wants to talk, without being intrusive. More often than not, he will eventually let me know what's on his mind.
Quote: I honestly kind of worry if she's nutsy enough that I need to be watching my back, don't know if I should ask H about that or not....I just have this weird feeling, and so far my weird feelings have been right on track....
I hear you. I had a creepy feeling about ex-roommate from the first time I saw her. Really, truly, bad vibe. And, the more I find out, the more I think she's honestly nuts--and that my gut was right on target. She has gotten obsessive about asking H things about me (wanted to know where I was moving to...H lied and told her the opposite side of town) and had a fit when she saw H's car in my apartment complex (which you don't just "happen" to drive by--but she did already know which complex I was living in). She even told H she wanted to get a cat just like his and give it the same name.
I am, in all honesty, looking over my shoulder every time I go outside now. I don't think she would attack me (that would just be stupid), but I think she may try to confront me. I have no sympathy for this woman. The more H tells me, the more I believe there really was nothing going on between them, and it's all in her head. (The thing with the cat pretty much convinced me of this.) But I am concerned. I hate feeling like I have to watch my back. I am so glad I am moving in a week and a half...
But it's his to deal with. I found that if I don't ask directly if ex-roommate called, and instead say, "You seem tense, is something wrong?" that lets him know I am ready to listen if he wants to talk, without being intrusive. More often than not, he will eventually let me know what's on his mind.
