Hi Deb, so happy to hear that your H finally found that OW is not that perfect after all. This gives me hope.

My H is still, sadly, putting OW on the pedestal. He told me that he needs to take care of OW's feelings. He said he can see that now I am free and independant but OW is (as always) breaking down, she is in need of help etc. He said they always fight now and when they fight, OW will tell him to just go. But he said that OW said that not in a bad way but as a way for her to fight her desire to be with H. I was . He is finding all sorts of ways to defend and protect her. Sigh...

When will he see the light? Maybe I need to be needy and weepy like OW?

Sometimes the very thing you're looking for is the one thing you can't see..