Deb -

Put as much as you can behind you now. I am glad that your H saw OW's true colors. Ex-b finally told me about the downsides of the ex-OW in my case. But even better than that, were all the nice things he said about me. When he said he'd never find anyone as loving and caring to him as me - I know that means that includes ex-OW.

Your H is home, so it's time to work on that. I hope that he stops calling the OW. I didn't quite drop the rope in my case, I had nearly partnered with ex-b in finding out stuff about ex-OW last year before they split. But he found out how fickle she was (I already knew), and that ended it. He also found out about things she lied to him about. He was SO wrapped up in her, it was scary - but he finally figured it out himself. I could have done it myself - I could told her that me and ex-b were still ML, or done one of a number of things. But even though it'd have felt sweet to do so then, it would have hurt any chances of reconciliation with ex-b.

I did tell him what I thought about her and I also told my major dream of infliction on her (beating her up, but in detail). There is also a scene in a movie from recent which was VERY coincidental. I mentioned it to him, we'd seen the film together - and he said he knew I'd like that particular scene (it was like revenge on ex-OW in animation, that is all I'll say). I also said that I'd love to make targets for shooting out of her cartoon alter-ego...

So it's good to talk it out, just don't dwell on it.