Ok Deb, now you have your answers. No more OW talk unless H needs to vent. He needs your support and understanding now. It is kinda of great though that she has turned nasty with him isnt it? This will make it easier on him to let go. My H had his OW on a pedestal saying that all men had hurt her (will duh, that is what happens when you go after married men especially when monetary support is one of the reasons) and now he was one of them and she was wonderful and didnt do anything wrong. Then she started in with the threats to call me and our sons, send us picture and the cards he gave her, threatened to hunt my sons down at their schools to tell them what a creep their father was etc and he finally started to get the picture. He wasnt the special man who could heal all her wounds, he was just another paycheck and surrogate daddy for her son. Big blow to his ego. Get ready for your vacation, stay upbeat and happy and most of all let him know with your actions that you trust him to handle this. Be his best friend. Be his stability. He has given you many clues about what he cannot handle (when he told you she was being mean, a loud mouth) so be the opposite. Be his strength. One more side note, your son. I know that you are a wonderful mom Deb, but your son is hurting too. Be aware of that. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own heartache that we tend to lose sight of what the kids go thru, especially someone as in tune to the two of you as your son. I have the same kind of son and he is finally after 3 years trusting we are a family. Too many times he saw my grief and H's bad behavior for his own good. Maybe you and H can do something special with your son this weekend, just the three of you. It will help him and keep your minds focused off of the situation and give you both a breather. Just my 2cents.
