I woke up early this am and did a little reading on the bb. I love Debra's post from 6/09. It is very insightful.
Regarding your dream the other night. I am a huge believer in dreams and the power they have to speak what our unconscious only hints at (I mean this in a good way, not some whacked out mystical bs). Your dream, though scary signifies that you have put to death/laid to rest the relationship w/ OW. She is done, finished, over. Good for you! I think I may have posted on my own thread about my OW dream. I told her 3 things. 1. that my H was never going to leave me for her 2. that she was a fool for thinking my H was going to divorce me and marry her 3. that she was a w****
Since I will likely never have face to face contact w/OW that was a way to let her know that I had dismissed her and her power over me.
All that being said, it is very hrd to deal w/ the fact that our H's have a relationship w/ these OW's that goes beyond sex. If it was just sex or a one night stand it would be way easier to deal with.
W/o going into crazymaker mode keep in mind that OW is also grieving and may do some unpredicatable stuff. If that happens don't assume that your H was the initiator, she may be the one. The reality of finally losing him may cause her to "lose it" and try to get him back. I hope this doesn't happen but if we could count on OW's to do the right thing none of us would be here.
I am glad that you are soon going on vacation, when is that?
I am keeping you in my prayers, being in KS recently I thought of you often and tried to use that as a prompting to pray for you.
all the best, Pam
ps. what is this t-shirt story?... I can't seem to find the beginning of it.
