Thank you Debra, so much....but I really need your input now....I've been thinking I need to let H lead, but I'm kind of wondering what to expect as he goes through his loss and grieving....I'm seeing a lot of sadness and tearfulness, I'm wondering if he will become angry towards me again or if we are past that? I'm guessing he may become edgy and easily irritated...think I'm already seeing that.....I can see that I'm going to need to stay cool, calm and focused now more than ever.......thank god we have vacation coming up here in a little while....I think it's going to be a god-send.

congrats on your Son's graduation....that's a huge relief, isn't it? and a sense of accomplishment & victory!

been around awhile!