I've come to realize a few things in hindsight here...
first of all, H has most likely continued to see her...most weekends anyway, when he told me he was going to the office....that kind of makes trust even more of a challenge, but I know he is telling the truth now from the way he is acting.
I finally figured out what he meant when he said I "thought all he was interested in was sex and it was insulting"....duh....he meant he felt I was denigrating his R w/OW, not acknowledging how important it was.....
I think his recent, first time ever performance problems were related to this upcoming turn of events.
I think OW must have gotten tired of waiting and sent him packing....I guess that was always one approach I thought might work, that if I could stall him long enough while I was "drawing him back" that she would get tired of waiting.....Maybe it was by mutual agreement, but I think H feels so guilty that if she hadnt given him the push he would still be waffling....I don't mind being the default.....
