Nevanna, thank you, this is very helpful....I am very close to the point of letting go....I have come to the realization that I cant force the process on him, I can only (perhaps) help it along, and the most effective way to do that, I believe, is by meeting his emotional needs and making our M and home a safe place to be....I honestly feel like I have forgiven him, have let it go....and am certainly ready to move on....I certainly recognize the ways in which I failed to meet his needs, and no matter what anyone says that was a part of the equation, he really truely is a great person, not just an "alley cat" out looking for a good time. I've had to pray for forgiveness and work at forgiving myself for those failings before I've been able to write the letter. Even the thought is very humbling.
