I just reread the Marriage Builders Information....I have read it before, except I don't think I ever read the letters from the lovers before....It did help me understand why H has such a hard time breaking away from her, I bet because of her desperation and he is a good guy..... I've read and debated the part about making him leave before, and I don't know, I REALLY do not want to do this....I can see many more disadvantages than advantages to it, I keep hoping I can find the strength and patience to wait it out. I know they fight and argue....and are quite unhappy....When I look at the state of our M, it is much, much better than it has been for years, and it would be hard to get to this point if we were not together. I don't know, any thoughts on this? I know that Dobson and Harley both advocate leaving, but my personal belief system is more in line with that of DB, so I guess that's another part of why I'm so resistant to it.
Can affairs fizzle out on their own if you don't seperate? If so, Are there other things any one sees that I could do to help it fizzle out faster?
I do believe this must be part of H's of/on impetus about finding another job.....
