Hi Rottz, thanks for your input....yes, I agree, EVERYONE would be so much better off if he would just END IT ALREADY! even he would be better off....he is so inexperienced about such things, honestly I think he's clueless and can't see that. I wish I could shake him hard enough to get it through his thick skull (that doesnt sound very loving and respectful, does it?)
I A$$ume you mean in #2 he isnt going anywhere in your opinion?
Thanks for the marriage builders website....it's a good one and I think I found it before i found this one, and have used the love bank concept...I've read a lot of the stuff there but I think there is new stuff since I've checked it out, so I'm going back to go through it some more. I found it interesting that in the rebuilding marriage part it talks about the victimized (oh, how I detest that word, don't have a better one at the moment) writing a letter of apology. I have thought of doing this for months, started to do it several times, but it didnt seem to be "good DBing" and might have seemed like pursuing, so I havent....but, my instincts are still nagging at me about this, so I think I may give it a shot. It's a pretty scary thing to do when you think about it. I guess maybe I should post it here first....
I wish I could get my H to read some of this....of course, I'm sure he has, this is what he does professionally, and I'm NOT LOL....I know he has many of Michelles books and has attended her professional training seminars, as well as numerous others.....sigh.....so here I am, still trying to outfox the fox......anyway, thanks for the marriage builders reminder, looks like there are good things there to be had still.... also, congrats on your news, I saw your thread this morning and havent gotten posted to you...hope to soon....but that is so great!!!!!! (can I say I told you so? I swear, I just "felt it" coming for you!).
