update from last night: H walked for 2.5 hours; I believe he was walking because he was hot and sweaty when he got home....I had food ready for him when he got home, served it to him and sat at the table with him...he actually asked "have you guys already eaten", and I recall him saying before that he doesnt like to eat alone, so I'm trying to incorporate this into some of what I do based in part on Nevanna's post on my last thread about "no-strings attached affection" seeming to really get her H's attention. Interestingly enough, H thanked me for supper....I think this is 5 times in the last 2 weeks he's done this (yes I'm counting) when he hasnt done it in 25 years! the thing is, he couldnt have been thanking me for the food, because it wasn't much....just steak fingers and french fries and ice cream (nutritional nightmare, I know!) so I believe the "company" and "acts of service" must be working....so this is something for me to count in the "what works" column.
Later I put my arms around him and gave him a big hug, and told him how nice it felt to hold him and how I had been looking foward to it all day....rubbed his shoulders a little....he actually put his arms around me, put his head on my shoulder, stood there relaxed for a minute, and said "it does feel good"....then we had a long, NICE, passionate kiss....nothing more, still trying the "no strings attached affection" ala Nevanna....a little later he said he was going to the basement to do some sit ups (I didn't question or snoop, but that's kind of unusual)...H asked if I was going to go to bed pretty soon, I told him I needed to straighten the kitchen a little and take the dogs out, and then was planning to....H said he would take the dogs out! that is unusual....that's my official task! I had hoped to ML, but when we got in bed, H said he was so tired....I told him that was OK, I was to, snuggled up to him and told him again how great that in itself is....we both just went to sleep. I wanted to ML, but didnt pressure or push, kept thinking of the "no strings attached affection",trying to separate romance from sex and what would I do if I was having an affair with him. He actually kind of mumbled "thanks" and seemed happy.
This morning H was warm and friendly but rushed....gave little kisses and hugs. It was interesting to me that he was again adamantly talking about getting his resume sent off this weekend, and would I bring the stuff in from the car for him (I've had it all done and ready for weeks, he seems to lose interest so I don't say anything about it)
I cant help but wonder if his fluctuating motivation to get it sent has to do w/state of A w/OW.....I feel like he will not be able to completely end contact until one of them works in a different place. MIL is worried that H will have to drive by OW's town to where the new job would be located, but I'm not sure that would be as big a problem as them working in the same place....I personally would miss having him as a coworker to collaborate with, but my instincts tell me our M would have a better chance.
