Quote: he appreciates and he often seems proud that he's picked up some traits/mannerisms/etc from me AND that he's seen me pick some up from him.
Sage, I can second this for sure! H often gives me the same impression, that he is proud of picking up some of my traits, and proud of me for being who I am.
I'm also very excited because H seems to think we are going to make it through intact. He seems to think we are on pretty solid footing now. I am so happy. Here's some sparkly fairy PMA dust to make you all as happy as I am.
Here is some of an email exchange we had at lunch.
Me: Checked out what a financial planner makes and it's about $10k more than what I supposed to be making. Maybe I'll look into it.
H: You should. You'd be great at it!
Me: I am a bit worried that if I go and do another thing, you know how I get gung ho about things, and then I fizzle, but in the meantime, I neglect you and our marriage.
I did that with real estate and my bookkeeping business. I think that contributed a lot to us going downhill.
I really feel good lately about us. You made me feel special this weekend like you have not in ages. I hope I've been making you feel good also.
If I go and take this class and then change jobs, what about US? I had wanted to focus 100% on our marriage for the immediate future. Now, we can really use the money it would make for us, but by the same token, I would rather live like we are now and have a chance of our marriage surviving than be rich living with a house on each continent and a butler for my butlers, but being without my husband and best friend.
I realized that recently, how much more important we are and our friendship is than anything else I could have in my lifetime.
H: Go for it! I think our relationship can withstand it. I really think you should do it. Really.
Me: You're making me cry. Have I told you lately how very special you are and how much I really appreciate you?
I wish I could make you something yummy (and healthy) tonight to say thank you, but I have that thing for Arlene. I'll find a way to show you how special you are. Promise.
