Divorce busted, Crisis over, love waiting in wings

[sage]

I think a big turning point in our R was when I changed from telling H he had to be like me or else there was something wrong with him. (being able to plan events, vacations, do the bills, etc) I finally realized that hey, our differences make us unique and actually compliment each other. So, we have very many things in common -and some things that aren't, but that fill in the blanks in our R. For instance, H can fix a toilet, and I can budget for our household. Together, we make a great team.

Wow...can I relate to this...I too share this as a big turning point in my r...when I stopped trying to make h feel flawed for not doing things like I do...

There's been a definite shift in h's attitude,too...now he's very verbal about the qualities in me that he appreciates and he often seems proud that he's picked up some traits/mannerisms/etc from me AND that he's seen me pick some up from him.

Sage