Quote: I'm certain you are kidding when you say stuff like this.
I'm not kidding, but I didn't state what I meant clearly. If your spouse is telling you that there is a specific reason why they have LD and you see that they are doing nothing to remedy that problem then it is just the same as not showing up in bed. For instance, if your W tells you that he LD is due to poor body image and you believe her when she says this, but then she makes no effort to work on her appearance or see a counselor to feel better about herself, this is in some way the same as saying she is going to make an effort to initiate but not following through. On the other hand, if you were to tell your wife that in your opinion her LD was due to poor body image and insist that she do something about it that would be very counter-productive. Does this make sense or do you still think I'm wrong-minded?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
