Quote: So the problem is that he is still emotionally-fused to the witch. It happens. My MIL is still very emotionally-fused to my FIL even though they've been divorced for 16 years and she's been in a relationship with a wonderful,caring guy for 10 years. If I had the nerve to approach her about it, I would suggest that she read Passionate Marriage to learn about emotional-fusion and how to get over it. Maybe you should insist that your H read the book. It sounds like he needs it more than you.
I have the book and maybe *I* should re-read the part on emotional fusion. He's been divorced from her for about 20yrs and every romantic relationship up to now has ended in disaster. Our's won't end up that way because I knew him before that woman had gotten her witch's hooks into him. He really is a good man, but the Ex went above and beyond when it came to mind games.
When I met him again, he had no self-confidence, no self-esteem or self-worth. Now, he takes pride in what he does, takes better care of himself, laughs more and is more laid back.
