Quote: The Wicked Witch has left an indelible mark on him.
Maybe the real issue is not what the wicked witch did to him, but why he let her do it. If he can become more confident that he'll never let a woman do that to him again, then he won't have to worry about you doing it to him too.
You could be absolutely right, MM. He was very young when he got married at 19 [not long after we were split up] and had a son at 20, while in the military. The Ex kept son in bed with her so hubby wouldn't come to her. And later she flat out kept the son away, period.
Hubby has told me that he did give in on most everything during the marriage and divorce, so the child would not be caught in the middle. Now, decades later, he has no relationship with his son and both he & the son hate the Ex/Mother. Lovely.
I do know that his first marriage colored all his subsequent romantic relationships, including the sex aspect of ours. The therapist said that as long as he allows the Ex to control his thoughts she's always there in the bedroom with us. He knows that and agrees.
I'd thought that what we once had and what was again ours would 'heal' him. Stupid to think that way, I know.
