No, you are not ancient!!!! Neither am I (48) I wish I could get my H to even consider counseling. I have tried for 10 yrs to get him to agree, but he refuses. Now that I don't care what happens he would probably go
I see my H as a good friend, not much more. I don't know what will happen, but for now I keep busy, it helps. I am just not willing to put another 10 years of trying to get him to do something he can't/won't. Sorry your sitch hasn't gotten better. Annette
Hi Annette: I consider hubby my one grand passion. Unfortunately, because of his parents back in '69 it was not me who was his first wife. I have to wonder if I was if this problem would exist today.
Hubby was very forthcoming in therapy, to the point where I was almost sitting there with my mouth hanging open. His ex was worse than a b****. After listening for a while, the therapist turned to me and said, " I imagine that right about now, you'd like to strangle his ex." Well, strangle didn't come close to what I felt I wanted to do. She emasculated him.
When we first re-united, the sex was out of this world. Then it dwindled to almost nothing. Hubby admitted in therapy that he feared I'd leave, too. I'd suggest more therapy but I don't think it would do any good because I think The Wicked Witch has left an indelible mark on him.
I hope, for both you--Annette--and me that our sitchs do improve.
She emasculated him. 
