I do not posess the ability to break everything down like alot of the people on this message board. There are alot of intelligent people on here with alot of good advice. If you really want to make things work you should listen to them and read the books. I, however, feel my marriage will always be the way it is now, and the sad thing is I don't care. I have made myself busy with other things, working with the dogs, working on fixing up the house, and I go out with friends sometimes (he hates to go out anywhere) People have asked why I am here if I seem to have already made up my mind. I stay because I am interested and like I said previously it is nice to know I am not alone. Good luck to you. Hope your sitch gets better
