Hi CeMar, Congrats on a step on your differentiation...posting your situation in a clear way for us to now pick apart! lol
One thing that stands out to me is how much your kids dominate your home life. I know once I had kids I was preoccupied with their needs and saw H as a needy adolescent type, wishing he could just grow up, make money and do the things I needed done around the house, and stop bothering me. I became fused in the mother role and lost touch with my sensuality. We were still trying to go out every week, which was difficult bc then I had to make an effort...and when a friend said to me " oh you still do that" we stopped. Far easier to order in pizza with the kids, pop in a tape,etc. I cannot emphasize how important it is to make time to go out together as adults, to get away from the kids, and even if you can't relate to one another, at least reinforce what it feels like to be a grown up couple. I agree with Mojo that "becoming the man YOU want to be" is a good thought to keep in mind. Taking charge and insisting on a time for the two of you and treating her as a woman in a respectful way is very sexy, regardless of how she sees it. Keep us posted! Journey
