Quote: THe fix is that she find a way to desire me, and until she does this, I am at her mercy. The only fix that I can do is to end the marriage and start over.
I think you are viewing things a bit too negatively. Yes, you may have to put your marriage on the line to increase your wife's desire, but you are pessimistically assuming that she will choose divorce over working on being a more sexual person and improving her emotional connection with you. If she loves you why would she choose divorce? What you want isn't unreasonable and she will probably come to see the benefits herself. You need to take a firm stand from a place of integrity, express your stand with absolute clearness to your wife and then hold on to yourself when she reacts. The rest is up to her. It won't be a one-step process, but it really is quite simple and elegant.
Take strength and optimism from all the success you've seen on this board and...
GO CEMAR GO!
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