Incidentally... I was watching "Dr. Feel" last night, as W had it on while preparing supper (I wouldn't have turned it on, but WTH). He was featuring couples who had been through one of his "Relationship Rescue" retreats. There was one couple, where the W had been emotionally castrating the H by withholding sex. At the end of the show, each couple had to make a Marriage Pact that they would try to live with from then on. This couple did something amazing... the W said "For the next 30 days, if he is interested in intimacy, then so am I." Wow... talk about a commitment!