What would happen if you were to sit down, call Dustin and explain this to him exactly as you did right here?
I see no need to avoid communicating this message to him as long as it's delivered calmly and from a point of understanding rather than beginning it with a "YOU" statement.
A big but gentle hug to you, dear.
Bets
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."