Deb- Thanks so much for your post! And I am sorry as well for your loss, and the losses of those others who have posted here to me. Actually, what you bring up about H is a good point, and one we discussed today in MC. He is NOT verbal with his emotions - he doesn't work through them by talking about them always, at least not really deep pain, anyway.
He has a hard time, I think, letting himself grieve freely. He was trying to take care of me, and so our counselor pushed him a bit to talk about it, and he expressed briefly some of his sorrow about it. This is one of the things we really work on - opening up to me has been hard for him, as he has admitted he is scared of getting hurt. Validation is really important when he shares feelings.
He seems to feel supportive when I am affectionate - massages, head rubs, hugs, etc - this seems to be a good way for me to be there for him. Thanks for the comments! I always like to have more to think about. Hugs, Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
