Bets - I needed to take some time to think about your question, so I took it. I think I have at least a partial answer for you.
Crying is a release for me, but in the same way H needs to streatch to be able to deal with my emotionality, I need to try and tone it down sometimes to more closely match his communication style. Some tears are okay, but so is some control, especially if he is better able to listen to me witout the waterworks. Does this make sense?
I am okay today - H and I had a very quiet, lazy, and pleasant evening last night. Some affectionate touching from him, and he was really sweet. I woke up this morning to find everything I had needed to get at the store sitting outside our door...except that the water shoes for Salmost2 were too small, so I have to exchange them. I am NOT going to tell him this. I left him a message to tell him thank you, and it started out "hiya, cutie." Very playful and upbeat.
Things are fairly quiet right now, except for a couple of weird little mini-soap operas this weekend that I am not going to go into, because honestly, they don't matter. We handled them together, and talked through them, so anyway, 'nuff said about that.
I am working still on my goals for myself - working through a workbook I have on dealing with emotions, and another on self-esteem. I'm also working really hard not to throw up most of the time. I am at about 8 weeks now, and the nausea and fatigue are setting in. Yuck! But at least I know what to expect this time... Hugs to all, Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
