Has anyone ever seen those megaphone things that you talk into and they make your voice sound really loud? They drown out anything quiet around them, and they have absolutely no way of receiving sound or "listening."

That megaphone is me. A constant BWAAA, BWAAA, BWAAA...I grew up learning that when you have a feeling, you should express it loud and long until it gets some sort of recognition. There were no lessons on how to listen to the feelings of others or how to express your own feelings carefully.

My H is different - he is careful about how he expresses his emotions. He checks to make sure the environment is safe, and doesn't ever just spew feelings all over.

So my feelings have been the only ones getting heard in our relationship for a LONG time. Which leads me to wonder...does my H feel like his feelings don't matter, even like HE doesn't matter?

Just something that occured to me last night at about 5am - lemme know what you think.
Myrrh

One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.