Quote: . It was really amazing to find this place and see that I'm not alone. The situation I am in, and the feelings I have felt are not only shared by others, but are spelled out right there, on my computer screen,
Hi Paul... I "lurked" here for a few weeks before recently "coming out." I was a ND/LD for too long than I care to admit( wow, this does sound like an AA confesssion ) and now I am the one who is pushing for a more sexually intimate marriage, so change is possible! It is a very hard thing to own up to the fact that not having desire is unhealthy...in fact, it was a running "joke" with a few of my girlfriends which is really not funny at all but just shows how we can cover up our problems so readily. In the back of my mind I knew that my attitude/behavior was not healthy and ultimately confronted myself. I am happy to have found this board and admire how everyone here is working so hard to improve their marriages when there are easier routes out there. There is empathy, support, insight, sharing and humor here...and hopefully lots more stories of great sex! I can't comment on sex therapy; I recently started marital counseling and can't yet provide personal feedback, however, I am not too optimistic given the experiences of the people on the board. I found SSM helpful in underscoring the importance of a healthy sexual relationship and am now reading PM which I feel is strengthening me in my daily interactions.
