Quote: I'll put up with a lot of crap to avoid hurting my kids, and to be able to see them every day.
Yup, been there, done that. Thing is, as I now see it, if I'd been willing to press the issue earlier, I could've saved myself a lot of years of heartache. The light at the end of the tunnel would have been a LOT closer.
A couple of points - I assume YOU'VE read SSM? Thing is, if SHE doesn't see that there's a problem, she won't be motivated to change anything. She has to understand that if YOU have a problem, you BOTH have a problem. Trouble is, if all you can do is wait for her to read SSM, you may be in for a LONG wait, unless you can find a way to convince her that a problem for one is a problem for both. In the meantime, you might as well get a copy of PM and read it, you've got nothing to lose. What I found was that when I read PM, I finally saw that I had options besides just waiting around for W to do something. It gave me some things I could do on my own, which I found tremendously liberating. Try it!
