Christine! Thank you for posting. I have been reading today trying to find something to give me a little peace and strength...your post really helped.

My H also dropped the bomb a year ago and there was OW, but in my case she is also his XW of eleven years ago. She brought their son (whom he had never seen) back into his world also). All of this was done under the noble guise of being for the son. Well within two months it was a full blown affair. H did the same thing yours did, moved into the spare bedroom and then into the camp trailer. He was drinking a lot and always angry at me.

I have DB my tail off, and by New Year's (also our 4th anniversary) the fantasy of OW/XW had started to wear off and H moved back home. No explanations were demanded, we have not had a fight (nor a real good conversation), but he has asked what he has done to deserve me. He is remodeling the house again, and has taken interest in our homelife again. For this I am thankful, and yet something is still missing. He still seems pulled back in many ways, still drinks too much, and a few nights he doesn't come home. This past week he has been out of town on a business trip and I feel anxious. I feel as if at some point he will be seeing son (which is great) but I am sure OW/XW will be there. He hasn't said anything, and so I am only ASSuming, but it is so hard not to.

Sorry to hijak your thread. Thank you for your words that give me hope, and I would appreciate any advice you can share.

Warmly,

~~Janehiswife~~ "Who in the world do you run to when the only person in the world who can stop your tears, is the one who made you cry?" ~Author Unknown