I hope today is a happy day for you. Reading your thread made me want to reach into the computer and give you a big hug!
Your H is in such denial that he has a drinking problem - his "I can quit any time I want" is classic. The problem is that anyone can quit - it is the STAYING QUIT that is the hard part. That is where the physical addiction has to run it's course and then the work on the pyschological addiction begins. It is the same with smokers - the nicotine is gone in 7-10 days, but changing the habit of smoking in their mind is the most challenging part.
Your H goes to the OW when he is drunk so he can avoid facing you at his lowest and weakest form. He is embarrassed by his behavior and doesn't want to subject you or S to it.
Did he behave this way when SS was younger too? I just wonder if SS took his dad out and told him, listen, I went through this and don't want to see my little brother go through it too. Please get help and get it before it is too late.
Am I off the mark here? I haven't dealt with a drinking problem - and just feel for you as I read your posts.
Well, I hope you are able to enjoy and kick-back at your niece's graduation tonight and tomorrow. Were you able to get the scrapbook done? Tell me about it - do you simpy crop and mount the photos on colored paper? Do you journal on your pages? Do you do fancy lettering yourself or use pre-cut letters? Or are you into the more advanced stuff using metals, fabrics, etc?
I have a closet full of the supplies and no time to tackle it! And I have three kids to do scrapbooks for. Luckily my MIL suggested that she watch the kids on a regular time so I can go do something for myself. She suggested a book club, but I said I'd rather go to work on my scrapbooks. Yeah!
Well, it is raining here - again ( or should I say still?) But tomorrow promises to be sunny - yeah again!
Hope you have a great weekend. Hang in there!
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