I don't think your H is considering your feelings. This is all about them, remember? As far as they are concerned the world evolves around them. From what you've posted here and in our e-mails, your H is acting like he is 16. Most 16 yr. olds don't care a hoot about responsibility.
As far as the drinking goes. If his problem is as bad as you think it is, he will continue to drink and the more you complain, bring it up, the more he probably will drink. The only help that will work in the long run is the help that he, himself, asks for. I'm sure he knows deep down that he needs to stop, but only he can stop - you can't make him stop anymore than you can make him love you.
I told myself every day for at least 10 years "you've got to quit smoking, your killing yourself, blah, blah, blah". Well I guess I finally realized I was killing myself and I quit cold turkey. I was killing myself as I know have a case of emphysema - mild, but still I'm just a kid
I tried the patch, the gum - but it finally just hit me - I HAD to quit. I think quitting the drinking is in much the same vein.
Cathy, I think you had much more than just a superficial kind of love with your H. I don't think you'd be here if it was just superficial. And I don't think anyone likes being the one that got left!!
My H told me that the reason he thought I was sorry that he left was because of money, ie, the fact that I could use his paycheck to pay the bills. I wasn't sorry because of that fact; but, yes, it does make a difference.
I've never scrapbooked. What's it all about?
Hugs to you,
Mary
"God, help me keep my head up, my heart open, and know I'll always be guided along the path."
