Good morning Cathy,

I hope you were able to get some rest last night and that you just gave it all up to Him.

Deb is right: going back to find a pattern and writing down babysteps can be very useful in showing you the progress you've made. I do this often. I also keep a little journal of with dates and positive interaction to try and figure out what works. You, however, have the added challenge of the drinking problem but you can still find some sort of pattern.

I know how disheartening it is to have them fall of the wagon and start what seems to be an endless cycle. My brother, who had not had a drink in over a year, also fell off the wagon a couple of weeks ago. I was angry, disappointed, etc.....but I actually know what triggered it. His wife does too and is keeping an eye on him. I'm not saying that we could have prevented it, but seeing the pattern and knowing the triggers brings some sort of, I don't know.....false sense of control, I guess....a sense of understanding and compassion...a sense of sympathy for what he must be going through. I don't know if I making sense here.

I'm rambling so I'll stop. I hope you have a good day Cathy. What nice thing will you do for yourself today? go to the driving range perhaps?

Take care my friend.
Minnie