Quote: Pray, validate and show utter patience. Go back through your threads and find that there are many times that your H has shown baby steps, times when the patience has paid off.
Don't dwell on the bad times, just vent here and move forward. List the baby steps and there have been many! And keep going back and read them.
Deb, this is a great idea, list the baby steps. I WILL work on this.
There are so many good things, many small changes in H, that H should be commended for, yet one bad night, one step backward and it becomes bigger than all the baby steps, all the good things.
AND, it should NOT be BIGGER! .
H fell off the "wagon" and that's all that happened. Just as I fall off the "wagon" once in awhile so does H. We all make mistakes, we all do things we wished we wouldn't have. I know for me, once I realized and accepted the consequences of my actions, really felt the feelings and got sick and tired of the feelings..was when I was able to make the change..whatever they were.
H isn't there yet. He's still feeling comfortable in the pit.
"Utter Patience" I like that Deb...maybe it should be my new screen name "Utter" (laughing out loud right now)
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