I left a vm for H asking if he would be able to pick up S from daycare tomorrow night.

H calls back we chatted for a bit and H asks me what I wanted. I said didn't you get my vm and H says yes and that I only called him when I wanted something. I said that's not true. H says "oh pretty much" then says "you and B(his brother). B called me yesterday and I didn't call him back, called back again today and H said he answered the phone: "what do you want?" H's brother for the most part does only call when he wants something. There is a 5 year age different and for some reason they've never been close and it bothers H. So maybe he was taking the "call" out on me, whatever.

Then H goes on to say that he's always watching S, that I'm always busy, that he doesn't have any time for himself. That he spent most of the day Saturday with S and blah, blah..I reminded him he was drinking for three hours, also.

I said I'm sorry you feel that way, that I have to work at these events is part of my job, it's in my description. I would have to get another job if I wanted to be "at his beck and call" I didn't say that, but I think H would really like it if I devoted myself to H.

I said well I'll be home tonight and Thursday night and H then made a comment about being gone Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights. That I have plans Friday night and Saturday. H knows what I'm going and I told him I wished he would come with. H then says something like "well what's your theory on why I don't want to go" I said "you're not comfortable, and that I hoped someday he would be, that I wasn't going to make him go, it was his decision. H didn't tell me why either, the converation moved right away to I'll do something with S Friday night so that you can go out to eat after graduation. Wouldn't you have a better time without S there, it'd cost less money and S wouldn't eat anything anyways..WHAT THE so he's now going to be with S Friday night while I go to graduation and to eat...what the...yes this is my H.

I'm so stunned I just say "thank you" and H says "bye" and we hang up.

So I go do my shopping, which is were I was during our conversation, the parking lot of the grocery store.

Get in the car and call H back, he doesnt answer so I leave a VM. I say H, I have something else I want you to do for me. I want you to do something with ME once in awhile, that's what I'd like more than anything. Have a good day, I love you.

Haven't heard back from him yet either.

Cathy