I was thinking negative and then turned around to positive and not making it about "me." It probably is awkward and will be for awhile. And the fact that H is still in contact, as far as I know, with OW, could also make it even more uncomfortable. IF they know, and then see me and H together and wonder if I know that they know that OW is still pursuing H... ya know?
At this point I really can't focus on the "other" people, they will think what they want, say what they want. It's the just the "latest" something else will come along to replace it at some point. And, I highly doubt OW was thinking about me when H moved in with her and/or cared.
Last night S had his firt t-ball game. He was just so darn adorable out there, in fact all the little one's were. H and I really enjoyed watching. H was D'd from first wife when SS20 was 3, so H missed a lot of his growing up years.
Maybe someone call help me with this situation. I have to work tomorrow night at a dept event. I asked H Sunday if he would be able to pick up S. First response "no" so I said can you pick him up for SIL's as I will probably get back late (in case he wanted to do something after work, which is what I was assuming) and he once again said "no" and then "you don't have to work at that" "tell your boss you can't work." I didn't say a word.
This is what H says when I have to work late or extra hours for an event. A few of them are events that I manage so I HAVE to be there, it's what I do. I'm not sure why his first response is always "no" and "tell them you can't work" If I call him today to ask him again, before I ask my SIL, he will more than likely say he'll pick S up. Do I need to ask differently, a different approach?
It has something to do with H's insecurity, of not feeling important to me, that there are other men who will be talking to me, that I might meet somebody else??
My niece is graduating this Friday and I plan on attending the graduation and dinner afterwards. As well, as a party the next day at my SIL/Brothers's house. H asked if I was going Friday night and I said yes and H said "is it okay if I don't go" I replied "that's fine" H then asked if it was okay if he didn't attend on Saturday "I said that's fine" and then he kind of made a smart remark. I said "it's not that I don't want you to go, but I'm not going to make you either" Should I have insisted that he go? I want to bring the subject up again, just so that he knows that I really would like him to be there, but it's his decision. I know he's having a hard time with family things. It could be awkward as SIL's family will be there and H doesn't really like SIL's mom all that much. This is my favorite niece, and I don't want to miss these functions.
H and I haven't been out on a date in quite awhile. Maybe I could ask him to do something Saturday night, just he and I? Only stay at niece's party on Saturday for a short time?
I know there's nothing I can do, but if he's free Friday night..might be Miller time and who knows what will happen from there.
