Cathy,
Why is OW mailing stuff to your house? Why is she not just giving it to him IN PERSON? Because she is either not seeing him, or doesn't know when she will see him again...

I don't see that as a bad thing.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.