Yes, Cathy, it is a control thing!! It's these kind of conversations when you can't pin them down that drive us batty!! I always feel like, well, we're doing xyx, unless he gets a better offer. So, make plans for you. Call SS20 and see what he wants to do.
Honestly, from just reading your thread, your H will go north. Have you told H son probably only wanted to spend time together as a family?
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
