At this point I don't call H regularly at work becuase I feel like I'm pursuing, pushing, don't want to bother him, feel that he really doesn't want to talk to ME, worried about his cellphone minutes which I don't know why I do as H uses it as him main phone, even at home. That if he doesn't answer his cell or has it turned off that he's avoiding ME. I do have a lot of excuses don't I? And, I don't NEED to talk to him during the day, but I see what you're saying. It's giving me lots to think about.
I do the little cards in his lunch. Put a cupcake in there today with little hearts all over it. He's never once commented on the cards and I've never asked either. Some days I wish he would comment on them, but it's okay if he doesn't. I feel good.
which I don't know why I do as H uses it as him main phone, even at home. That if he doesn't answer his cell or has it turned off that he's avoiding ME. I do have a lot of excuses don't I? 
