Quote: There's a difference between being needy and pursuing, and meeting his needs for quality time. My H is a quality time person. I never used to call him at work, didn't want to "interrupt" him- and frankly, I'm more of a loner, so I didn't feel the need to touch base all the time. Besides, he called me when he wanted to talk to me, right? WRONG! It's amazing to me how grateful he is now when I call him at work, even if it's just to say hi. Obviously your H needs and wants quality time. So try calling him, putting cute little notes in his lunch, meeting him for lunch if that's an option, and when he IS home - be with him. Sit next to him (even if you want to get up and do the dishes instead). Look him in the eyes when you listen to him. Heck, I even used to lie in bed at night and try to match my breathing to my H's.
Quote: Your H just told you something important; he wants you to show him you care by calling
I've been thinking a lot on this and it's the tone H used. What I hear is H's defending his not calling me, by saying "why didn't you call." Maybe it's time to rethink on what H is really saying. I might be taking it the wrong way--based on my old way of thinking. Maybe I've been hearing H the wrong way and not just in the last few weeks, but for a very long time.
