Good Morning to those of you posting this dreary Sunday morning, at least where I am anyway.
S and I are getting ready to head out, S to his brothers and me to a friends to scrapbook for a few hours. Going to stop and get some movies for later on.
H hasn't called yet this weekend. He's up North fishing, supposedly by himself, yet I have a nagging feeling OW is with him. It's not like H to not call especially if he were alone.
NOW I know he really could be alone, but it is also unlike him to go fishing alone for a three day weekend. Yes it bugs me, I've been pushing those thoughts out of my head, detaching, yet it still is bugging me that he lied about going alone, if in fact he is with OW.
A few days ago I asked him if he wanted any company and he said no. Now did this mean me and that he was going with OW or that he didn't want any company period. His S20 was also kind of surprised that he went alone and said that he would have went with him. It bugs me that if H is lying that I'm covering or lying for H.
I don't think that I should have to cover for H anymore, I don't think I will either. If S20 asked I should have just said he went north and ended it there. Is it my responsibility to pass on messages to his S20 and to cover for him?
Now I could be way off base and H COULD be fishing by himself and I'm wasting my time and energy focussing on H and OW.
It's H's journey and I wasn't invited.
I do think it's time to interact with H differently, hold him accountable. Since H moved back here in January he has not once bought any groceries nor offered to buy any! I've been letting it go, but now I'm thinking why shouldn't he contribute to the food budget? He's living here and eating here yet doesn't contribute. He does take us out to eat here and there, but for the most part I cover the food expenses.
H is also complaining about never having any money, his bank account being overdrawn and then takes off for a three day weekend with his boat and hotel/foods expenses?
Our house payment is due in another week and H asked me when I needed his portion! We refinanced and haven't had to make payment for two months...so just what is H doing with all his money?
I think I have a right to ask H to contribute to the food expenses as well as laundry soap, cleaning supplies, etc. Don't I?
