Read through your last post again and believe it or not this was the conclusion I came to last night. I can be there to answer H's questions, to be his friend and not preach at him either, just help him along the way. I'll have to go back and reread Betsey's threads. I did read them not to long ago and see progress in her H, that he is now looking at himself so bravo.
Since my H and I have been "cycling" I beleive is the term, a new approach might be needed. I feel more detached than I ever have so maybe I'm ready.
I dug out H's shorts a week ago and they've been on the floor ever since. Last night I asked him if he wanted to move some of his sweaters out of one of his drawers so I cut put the shorts there. H said leave them where they are in case I have to MOVE. I pointed at the drawers that were full and said what about that stuff, you'll have to move that and then said I'm putting them away anyway. The evening proceeded on...
H is heading up north for the weekend fishing and I'll be here having a good time.
