MM wrote:
When I was reading CaDad's post the other day he described his wife as sweet. This is about the last word you could use to describe me. Cross off gentle, quiet, modest, restrained and sympathetic too.
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Correction: I said that YOU'D think my W was sweet. She's not to me at all. I'm not being mean, I'm just pointing out that the way our S sees us is not always the way others do.

Jen, you are a handful! You'd be a great debating/sparring partner. (I can see myself insulting more than a few of your books. LOL) Your irreverant humor would be a lot of fun, too. You present your views in an intelligent and forthright manner, and your posts clearly show you to be a good person.

What you don't seem to realize is that any of those qualities that "bug" your H is his problem, not yours. Let me explain what I mean. My W is a "life of the party" type, while I'm the "let's go in the cloakroom and have our own party" type. When we dated, I found her outgoing nature attractive. But when we M, it really started to bug me. One day, I discovered what it was that bugged me. I didn't really care if she was loud or had fun her way. What I objected to was her dragging me into it with her. As long as she didn't try to make me act like her, I didn't care what she did. That way, I got to sit back and laugh with everyone else instead of being in the spotlight with her.

That's what I mean about it being his problem. He has to decide where he wants to be when you're "bigger than life". You shouldn't have to change that.

This probably isn't an issue with you anymore after your 3-fer weekend. But I hope you don't let yourself be bothered with who you are. You impress me as being quite a lady.