Mojo, be careful you're not over-thinking this stuff, and be careful not to spend too much time analyzing HIM. YOU take care of (and work on) YOU, and let HIM take care of HIM.
Quote: Clearly, my fusion issue with my H isn't so much "Love me,love me" or "Want me, Want me" but "Like me, Like me. Be my friend and come out to play!". So my differentiation exercise would be to become strong in my belief that I am likable?
Not sure about this, or at least about the way you've described it. You can't "get" your H to either LOVE you or LIKE you... he will or won't, does or doesn't, and THAT'S his bag, not yours. All you can do is a) find yourself, b) define yourself, and c) disclose yourself. Then be ready to d) hold onto yourself, because if you disclose anything very significant, it'll differ SO greatly from your H's distorted picture of you that he'll probably freak, and there'll be a great classic crucible moment...
