Thanks all. You confirmed my feeling that I really shouldn't try to deal with this on the phone. If H brings up his discomfort again, I'll just try to keep it light and say something like "You can't get rid of me that easy.". If there is going to be a crucible type event it will be better if not easier to handle it in person.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
