My H called from the road last night. He could only talk briefly. Apparently, he's really feeling the effects of my "differentiation" because he was freaking out saying that he's afraid I'm going to call him one day and tell him our relationship is over.
I told him I hadn't really given him any ultimatum like that and reminded him that he was the one who was throwing his clothes into a suitcase two weeks ago.
He said that he believed in irony and felt that even though he acted that way it was entirely possible that I would be the one who would leave him "squashed like a bug".
I had great difficulty holding on to myself during this convo and I couldn't figure out how a differentiated person was supposed to act when the other spouse is the one who is upset and seeking validation. I did reassure him that I wasn't going anywhere and that I loved him, but I'm not sure that was exactly the right response. Luckily, H had to get back to work and the convo ended on a reasonably good note.
Today is our anniversary and I know he is going to call and I don't know how to handle myself. HELP!
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
